Archive for the 'hypocrisy' Category

Conservative luxuries

December 5, 2013

This is admittedly something of a cheap shot, but I can’t resist.

From our friends at The Weekly Standard, in their advertizement for some sort of cruise package they are putting together for “Conservative Thinkers” (which I take, from the context, to mean subscribers, past subscribers, people on their mailing list):  “We may be proudly conservative when it comes to our politics, but we’re liberal with our luxuries.”

No “good Republican cloth coat” for them, apparently, anymore.

Coming and going

July 15, 2013

Many Republicans seem to react to President Obama’s being a black man, and yet they object when he observes that if he had a son, he’d look like Trayvon Martin.  Why don’t they stop thinking of the president as black if they want him to stop noticing that, too?

Oppression

November 29, 2011

I am trying to figuring out what lies behind the apparent fact that sometimes when we’ve experienced an emotional transaction with someone else we try our best to avoid doing it to others, and why sometimes, whether intentionally or not, we wind up repeating the transaction but with ourselves in the other role.

So, for example, I’ve received very unhelpful condolence notes myself and I make an extra effort not to do the same myself when it’s my turn to write.  On the other hand, I resented that my father refused to teach me how to drive (someone who was like a second mother to me taught me instead, including how to talk to other drivers), and I’ve taught neither of my children to drive (my dad did teach my older sister), although for very different reasons.

I suspect this has to do with how the life lesson needs to be taught, perhaps like the difference between reading about something in a textbook and doing a hands-on project.

So, I titled this “Oppression” because I am wondering how people who grow up feeling oppressed deal with that as adults, whether they try their best not to force others to conform, for example, or whether they visit oppression on others in some other form or guise.

 

“Blocking” as an antidote to hypocrisy

November 9, 2011

I am perfectly capable of being a hypocrite and not following through on my values using my own personal navigational system, but as Gita (the person I go to who tells me what I don’t want to hear) says, if we have enough willingness (to serve the greater good), we get blocked.

I think that may be going on with how I can’t make use of the invitation from the NYTimes to participate in their “Trusted Commenter” program.  It’s predicated on having a Facebook account, and I don’t have one.  The hypocrisy, or at least the muddled  values, would be that I see my participation in submitting comments on line as kind of a donation tossed in from the peanut gallery and without expectations of response.  I say what I feel moved to say, and if someone wants to post it and others to read it, great.  But I have the sense that getting too wrapped up in responses and my standing in the community will interfere with my primary focus on the substance of my comments, which come to me in a particular way.  So, I’m thinking that I’m probably better off without the “Trusted Commenter” status.

This interpretation came to me because I’ve also been struggling with the sense that some people think that not only should I clean up my prose and improve my writing, through writing things up in other computer formats or revising more, for example, but I should also clean up my blog and improve my presence on line.  When I don’t want to do something, I do consider the “maybe it’s the very thing I should be doing” possibility.  I’ve been having trouble distinguishing mundane discomfort with blogging issues from grander issues of what’s my life supposed to be about.

Yesterday it came to me that I should put aside trying to make decisions about this stuff and just do some yardwork that needs to get done.  The weather was beautiful.   And I felt so much more like me, instead of somebody else’s version of me that I’m not very good at, afterwards.  (Still have more to do in the yard, but that seems to be a constant.)  I honestly don’t really know what I’m supposed to be doing or not doing a lot of the time, especially when other people try, however well-intentioned, to let me know what they might prefer I do.  There are times when someone else’s input does result in progress for me.  About six months ago, Gita gently urged me to let go of the collaborative model I’ve had for decades of my role in producing something written and to do it independently, for example.  But after the yardwork, I felt again the flow I identify with being in the right place — my mental processes operated better.  I feel the opposite when I spend a lot of time trying to understand computer software.

So, I’m going to take the Facebook obstacle to my being able to accept the NYTimes invitation as my less helpful inclinations being blocked by other forces so that my greater good gets served despite my ego’s sometimes inconsistent desires.  Jury’s still out on what to do about this blog.

 

Different sides of the same issue

August 25, 2011

When a politician who has, for example, pursued prosecution of prostitution becomes involved personally in something similar, we sometimes see a disconnect or irony, but it seems to me that both behaviors can actually be seen as pointing in the same direction: grappling with the issue and experiencing it from many perspectives in the course of trying to come to terms with it.  So, too, with people preaching to others about their intimate lives whose own lives differ from the standards they espouse, or with firefighters who commit arson, or with other pairs of opposing behaviors that taken together are often seen as evidence of hypocrisy or irony.  It looks to me instead kind of like people taking turns with now the bare-chested team, now the team wearing the shirts, or like people dancing first the leading role and then the role of the dancer who follows the dancer who leads, in order to experience the transaction in all different ways and to experience the flip side of what they experienced earlier and to experience themselves what they put the other person through (what it was like to be the recipient of their earlier behavior).